Wednesday, September 29, 2010

Some days I just want to sit down and cry

‘Idál (Justice), 3 Mashíyyat (Will), 167 BE – Wednesday, September 29, 2010 about 2:22 PM Pacific Time

Some days I just want to sit down and cry. This is one of those days and I'm not sure why. It could be a combination of stresses. Stress is imbalance. Stress is disharmony. I'm under a lot of stress and this morning I encountered one more.

This morning transmission fluid leaked onto the ground. I looked out and saw liquid on the ground by the front wheel on the passenger side. I looked out a few minutes earlier and it wasn't there, but when I looked out after bringing the newspaper in the house there was liquid on the ground. It was a pinkish liquid, so I think it's transmission fluid. I'm going to take the car into the garage in the morning.

The problem is that I have no one to stay with Mom. I'm not sure Mom should go with me because it takes so long to work on the car and Mom gets impatient, but I don't think I can leave her by herself. Mom thinks she would be fine staying by herself, so I haven't mentioned anything about taking the car into the shop. Since I have to take Mom with me tomorrow, I'll wait until tomorrow to tell her.

Tuesday, September 28, 2010

Renaming the cats

Fidál (Grace), 2 Mashíyyat (Will), 167 BE – Tuesday, September 28, 2010 about 2:45 PM Pacific Time

Mom has memory issues, as a results she forgot that the cats have names; therefore, she has decided to give the cats names. I am going along with this because otherwise Mom would get angry. I suspect this is just another manifestation of the Alzheimer's disease.

The cats' original names are Midnight, Prince, and Beauty, while their new names are Ralf, Henry, and Matilda. Since I am the one who makes the appointments with the veterinarian, it doesn't matter what names Mom gives them. When I make t appointments I give the name or names that are on the records at the Vets. I suppose the next time we go to the Veterinarian clinic, I should inform the office help and the veterinarian about he cats new names.

The cats names are now Ralf Midnight, Prince Henry, and Matilda Beauty or is that Midnight Ralf, Henry Prince, and Beauty Matilda. Those sound like good names for characters, perhaps I should use them in my upcoming NaNoWriMo novel.

Monday, September 27, 2010

The Feast of Will

Kamál (Perfection), 1 Mashíyyat (Will), 167 BE – Monday, September 27, 2010 about 9:23 AM Pacific Time

Mom and I attended the Feast of Mashiyyat, the Feast of Will, last night. Mom wore her hearing aid, she wanted me to take it out of her ear before we left the house, but I didn’t. Mom was a bit upset for a little while; however, she got over that once we were out of the house. Mom was interested in the traffic and the lack of wind driving to the Feast.

On the way to the nineteen-day Feast, I picked up some instant potatoes at the 99¢ Only Store. This helped to keep Mom’s mind off her hearing aid. Mom likes to watch the people in parking lots and she likes to comment on the colors of the cars she sees.

Mom didn’t read at the Feast because she doesn’t see very well. When we go to the Feast of ‘Ilm, I have to remember to put Mom’s magnifying glass in her purse. Mom uses the glass to help her read and if she has the glass with her she can read the writings if she is asked and wants to read rather then just listen.

Mom enjoyed listening to the readings last night. Mom always enjoys attending the Feast and she is always in a better mood the following day. The feeling at Feast is spiritual and tranquil. Everyone greets Mom and ask how she is doing. Mom likes to talk to people. Mom especially likes seeing young people at Feast.

Sunday, September 26, 2010

The Feast of Mashiyyat (Will) is tonight

Jamál (Beauty), 19 ‘Izzat (Might), 167 BE – Sunday, September 26, 2010 about 10:49 AM Pacific Time

The Feast of Mashiyyat (Will) is tonight at 7:30 PM. I made plans for Mom and me to attend, but now I'm not sure. Mom is having an especially difficult morning. The morning didn't start out like this. Mom was in a good mood when she woke up, but her mood suddenly changed. Mom's moods usually swing back and forth all day long, but this morning she seemed much more angry then usual.

When Mom's angry her anger increases if I offer to help, she doesn't want me in her room. Therefore, I check to make sure she is alright. The anger has pass for a little while, but I don't know how long this mood is going to last. Mom takes Alzheimer's medication, I think the medication is working, but I have to do a little more research.

We're going to the Feast tonight. Mom always enjoys feast and her mood is more positive after we attend. It's just getting her ready to attend. Mom likes to wear jewelry and she can't find some of her earrings. She had a couple of pairs yesterday, but I'm not sure where they are today. Mom moves them and then forgets where she puts the earrings.

Saturday, September 25, 2010

One-Third can of coffee left

Jalál (Glory), 18 ‘Izzat (Might), 167 BE – Saturday, September 25, 2010 about 1:11 PM Pacific Time

I am almost out of coffee. I have one-third of a can left with five days left in September. I bought a large can, which contained 34.5 oz., which seems like lot of coffee. This is not very much coffee to a person to makes two percolators a day.

Making coffee in a percolator is different then making coffee in a drip coffee maker. When I use a percolator, I use 9 or 10 tablespoons of coffee, but when I use a drip machine, I put only 4 or 5 tablespoons in the basket. The amount of coffee I use depends on the grind and the type of coffee I buy. If i grind the beans myself, I use less coffee then if the beans are already ground.

This morning I made fresh coffee and then went out. When I came back home I added the coffee I had leftover from yesterday to the pot. Of course, I removed the used grounds first because a percolator makes coffee stronger if you leave the grounds in the basket.. If I am fortunate, I will have enough coffee for the rest of the month. This month I do not have whole beans as a backup; therefore, when I run out of coffee I have to drink tea. Tea is good, but it is a poor substitute for coffee.

Thursday, September 23, 2010

Update on my doctor's appointment

Istijlál (Majesty), 16 ‘Izzat (Might), 167 BE – Thursday, September 23, 2010 about 5:13 PM Pacific Time

Mom and I went to Henderson today, I had an appointment for an ultrasound of my left breast. The mass had not grown, so that is good news. Mom lost an earring somewhere between leaving the house the doctor's office, which is bad news.

Mom is extremely upset and angry about the earring. I took her to a restaurant to eat this afternoon. She enjoyed the eating out and forgot about the earring for a little while; however, she remembered the lost earring after we arrived home. She is upset, angry, and crying about the earring. I gave her $20.00 to buy a new pair of earrings, so in a couple of days I will take her shopping for a pair of earrings.

Today was a mixed bag; I am relieved because the mass in my breast has not grown. I am stress because Mom lost the earring and is still angry about it. I hope tomorrow is better for Mom and she does not lose another earring.

Wednesday, September 22, 2010

Autumn at last

‘Idál (Justice), 15 ‘Izzat (Might), 167 BE – Wednesday, September 22, 2010 about 5:52 PM Pacific Time

Autumn at last, I am looking forward to cooler days. I am looking forward to a lower power bill. I am looking forward to turning the cool air off. Today  turned the thermostat up to 85 degrees, it will not have much of an effect on my next power bill, but the one after will be lower.

Today was a difficult day, not for Mom, but for me. I am tired and I have an appointment tomorrow for breast ultrasound. Things are going to be tight for the next few of months, but then our situation has been tight before so this is not anything new. I am tired; therefore, do what work I can tonight and attempt to go to bed early.

Tuesday, September 21, 2010

Reading poetry at Sunset

Fidál (Grace), 14 ‘Izzat (Might), 167 BE – Tuesday, September 21, 2010 about Sunset Pacific Time

Beautiful sunset
Mom sits listening as I read
A poem my brother wrote

Monday, September 20, 2010

My appointment is for Thursday, September 23

Kamál (Perfection), 13 ‘Izzat (Might), 167 BE – Monday, September 20, 2010 about 11:32 AM Pacific Time

On Thursday, September 23, at 11:00 AM, I have an appointment for another ultrasound of my left breast. The doctor wants to see if the lump in my breast has grown, I don't think the lump is any larger. I'm not worried about it because I don't feel any pain, at least not in that part of my body. When the doctor fist discovered the lump, it bothered me that I hadn't fond the lump myself.

I don't have health insurance, so I have to go to a clinic that charges a sliding fee. Fortunately, I am a senior citizen so I was able to get into a program for senior women after the doctor found the lump. I have an appointment with the breast specialist next week. All I can do now is pray that the lump is benign.

Sunday, September 19, 2010

A good Sunday afternoon

Jamál (Beauty), 12 ‘Izzat (Might), 167 BE – Sunday, September 19, 2010 about 3:43 PM Pacific Time

I changed the battery in Mom's hearing aid this morning and then put the hearing aid in her ear. She protested verbally, but let me put it in her right ear. Mom hasn't said anything about the hearing aid this afternoon. Right now, she is setting on the couch dozing.

Mom cleaned, i.e. she sifted the cat litter this morning. I still have to figure out where she put the plastic bag with the used cat litter. Since she didn't put it in the trashcan in the hall, the bag must be in her bedroom or mine. Since she is dozing on the couch, I'll check in her bedroom to see if its in there. Mom gets upset if I go into her bedroom when she is in another part of the house.

You can do research about Alzheimer's disease and the sufferers, but that doesn't prepare you for dealing with a parent who suffers from the disease. I miss the woman my mother was before the disease began. Sometimes Mom is her old, happy self and other times she becomes angry over nothing. The meds help a little, but all medication can do is slow the progress of the disease. Mornings are more difficult for Mom then afternoon.

Saturday, September 18, 2010

Battle of the hearing Aid

Jalál (Glory), 11 ‘Izzat (Might), 167 BE – Saturday, September 18, 2010 about 11:06 AM Pacific Time

Mom has decided that she does not need a hearing aid. She believes the problem is wax build up not hearing difficulties. Mom will not put the hearing aid in her own ear and she does not want me to put it in her ear. As a result, I have to be extremely careful about putting the hearing aid in her ear.

The hearing aid is one of those that talks when it needs a battery. I change the battery on the first day of every week. Tomorrow is Sunday time to change the battery. I, also, suspect I may have to hide the case when Mom is not wearing the hearing. Mom finds the case, opens it up, and looks inside. When she closes the case, she also manages to close the door to the battery compartment, which causes the battery to wear out sooner then expected.

The hearing aid makes a noise when the battery compartment is closed and the hearing aid is not in Mom's ear. I hear the noise, I open the case, and I open the battery compartment. I have decided to put the hearing aid case on my computer desk, where Mom cannot find it. I hate the idea of hiding it from Mom, but I have no other choice.

I wish Mom would put the hearing aid in her own ear; however, she refuses. I know Mom hears better with the aid in her ear because she hear the fridge running and other background noises. I cannot convince Mom she needs the hearing aid and because she has Alzheimer's disease she gets angry when I try. I put the hearing aid in her ear and go on with my day.

Wednesday, September 15, 2010

The first college I attended

‘Idál (Justice), 8 ‘Izzat (Might), 167 BE – Wednesday, September 15, 2010 about 9:09 AM Pacific Time

I found out yesterday, that the first college I attended celebrates its 40th anniversary in 2011. I attended College of Southern Nevada (CSN) in the early 1980s, at that time it was called Clark County Community College (CCCC) and later became the Community College of Southern Nevada (CCSN). I attended and worked at the College through all three of the name changes. I am looking forward to the celebration. I need to start writing some of my memories and writing some poems about the experience.

Tuesday, September 14, 2010

Another difficult day Alzheimer’s Day

Fidál (Grace), 7 ‘Izzat (Might), 167 BE – Tuesday, September 14, 2010 about 12:06 AM Pacific Time

It’s another difficult day and I’m not sure what caused the problem today. I took Mom to the doctor’s office this morning for a vitamin B shot, she wasn’t angry all the time we were out of the house. Before we left the house, she was angry and after we returned, Mom got angry again. All the time we were out, Mom wasn’t angry.

I suspect part of the problem could be that Mom was off her the Galantamine for a couple of day. However, I don’t think that is the entire issue. I swept and mopped the kitchen floor last night, which Mom has planned to do for a couple of weeks. I made the mistake of doing it while she was awake. I won’t make that mistake again.

I will clean house after Mom goes to bed. That way she can’t get angry with me for doing “her job”. The problem is that Mom wants to clean the entire house, but she wants to do it “tomorrow”. Unfortunately, tomorrow never comes.

Mom did clean the cat litter today, which was nice because now I don’t have to clean it tonight. Since Mom cleaned the cat litter, I can do something else. Perhaps I should sweep the dining room, kitchen, and breakfast room tonight and then mop them tomorrow night.

It would be nice if I could get Mom out of the house during the day, so that I could mop in the daytime instead of at night. The Blind Center is putting together basket in October; if I could get Mom to go there, I could do a good job mopping the floors. I don’t think this is a good time to bring that subject up; I’ll wait until Mom is in a better mood.

Saturday, September 11, 2010

An interesting Saturday Morning

Jalál (Glory), 4 ‘Izzat (Might), 167 BE – Saturday, September 11, 2010 about 9:46 AM Pacific Time

Saturday started out interesting. I encountered the Blue Screen of Death. Mom had difficulty finding her earrings. I started to make this entry and encountered interruptions. I called one of Mom's meds in and the pharmacy just called me back to inform me that they have to contact her insurance carrier. They are contacting her insurance carrier about the Galantamine.

On the bright side, I was able to tell someone about Baha'u'llah this morning. Two ladies, carrying Bibles came to the door, they never heard about Baha'u'llah before so I told them about him. Saturday looks like it is going to be an interesting day.

Friday, September 10, 2010

Thursday was a relaxing day

Istiqlál (Independence), 3 ‘Izzat (Might), 167 BE – Friday, September 10, 2010 about 12:56 PM Pacific Time

I didn't know driving across Las Vegas could be so much fun. I spent five unhurried hours yesterday just relaxing. I went to the bank for a print out of my checking account. I went to Border's to buy writers' magazines. I went to the Baha'i Center on West Oakey. I went to Smith's Food & Drug store for groceries. I went to Panda Express for food. I had an enjoyable five hours away from care giving. I came back home relaxed and ready to take care of Mom.

Today I have to catch up on the things I didn't get done yesterday, but that is all right. I enjoyed myself just driving around Las Vegas. I think I may attempt a mini vacation again next month if I can find the money. This month I had five hours left on a grant I had to use up, so I took the five hours to relax and do some business. Mom didn't like it, but as a results I can take better care of Mom.

Wednesday, September 08, 2010

I checked my Facebook page today

‘Idál (Justice), 1 ‘Izzat (Might), 167 BE – Wednesday, September 8, 2010 about 1:15 PM Pacific Time

I checked my Facebook page today. This is the first time I've checked in about 30 days and I need to start checking it more often. Maybe I should attempt t check it once every 19 days, at least that way I could stay caught up on the friends request and wall writing. Today I accepted four friends request and ignore a group suggestion. The group suggestion was for a politically motivated group, which I'm not interested in joining. I also posted a message on my own wall.

Writing on the wall
I never did as a child
Now I write on walls

Monday, September 06, 2010

A good beginning on Labor Day

Kamál (Perfection), 18 Asmá’ (Names), 167 BE – Monday, September 6, 2010 about 3:41 PM Pacific Time

Mom woke up in a good mood this morning. She remained in a good mood all day. Mom did get a bit frightened when I went into the backyard. I went out to hang some cloths on the line and did not tell Mom I was going outside. Mom got frightened when she could not find me. I have to remember to tell Mom where I am going, even if it is to the backyard to hang out cloths.

I know the issues is Alzheimer's disease because this issues arose after Mom was diagnosed with the disease. The only time Mom gets frightened is when she doesn't see me go outside. If I take trash to the garage, Mom sees me go out the door so she does not get frightened. Mom was frightened this morning because she thought I left her and was not coming back.

After I came back into the house, Mom calmed down. Mom does not remember being upset because she could not find me. Mom is happy now, she is sitting on the love seat with one of the cats in her lap. It was a good beginning to Labor Day because Mom woke up in a good mood.

Sunday, September 05, 2010

A Busy Sunday Morning

Jamál (Beauty), 17 Asmá’ (Names), 167 BE – Sunday, September 5, 2010 about 6:37 AM Pacific Time

This morning, I sifted all four litter pans and carried the used litter to the trashcan in the garage. While I was out there I noticed an old plastic trashcan with a huge hole in the bottom. A trashcan with a hole in it is of no use to me. I have to take that can to the curb on recyclable day with a note attached so the trash collectors will carry it away.

I prepared Mom's meds for the next seven days. I noticed that Mom is out of calcium tablets, so I began grocery list because I don't want to forget anything when I go to the store for he calcium tablets. The doctor recommended that she take two 600 +D tablets per day. Since Mom's insurance won't pay anything on the calcium tablets we have to buy them over the counter. I also changed the battery in Mom's hearing aid; we don't have to worry about hearing aid batteries for about five weeks.

I also wrote about 400 words this morning, I know that isn't very many words, but considering everything else I've accomplished that is good. I think Mom is still asleep, because I don't hear her waking up. I'll check on Mom when I go to get a cup of coffee.

For breakfast, I'm fixing scrabbled eggs and canned chicken. I still have a pound of bacon in the freezer, but we had bacon for breakfast everyday last week; so I want to start this week off with another type of meat.

Saturday, September 04, 2010

Saving Money at the end and beginning of the year

Jalál (Glory), 16 Asmá’ (Names), 167 BE – Saturday, September 4, 2010 about 10:18 AM Pacific Time

I sent for my first free 2011 calendar last night. The subject is Women's Health and it will take 4 to 6 weeks for the calendar to arrive. Free calendar offers always indicate the end of a year. Free calendars are a good way to save money. Instead, of buying a calender in the store, I send for calendars that interest me.

Calendars cost any where from $0.99 to $5:00, sometimes more, so a free calendar helps the beginning and end of the year budget. I buy calendars as gifts, but I don't buy them for myself anymore. The money I save by sending for free calendars goes to buy gas, food, or as a donation. Many people don't realize how much they can save simply by getting a couple of free calendars.

It's wise to look at your needs when sending for free calendars. I put a calendar above my desk, by the door in the living room, beside the telephone, and in my writing planner. I know I will probably receive four calendars from local business, so I need to have one more calendar. I may need another calendar for the dining room and the entrance hall. I will decide before the end of September if I'm going to put calendars in those locations in 2011.

Friday, September 03, 2010

I am taking a day off next week

Istiqlál (Independence), 15 Asmá’ (Names), 167 BE – Friday, September 3, 2010 about 5:07 PM Pacific Time

I am taking a day off next week. Mom isn't going to like it because I am leaving here with a paid caregiver, but I need some down time from care giving. I have five hours left on a grant that I have to use this month, so I'm using it. I don't know what I will do yet; perhaps go to the park and write poetry.. I could go to the library or to a coffee shop.

I know five hours isn't an entire day, but it's time enough to recharge my batteries. I think I will take my prayer book, a reading book, and my journal. There is a park close to the house, that seems like a good place to go. I have my cell phone, so whoever is taking care of Mom can get in touch with me.

Thursday, September 02, 2010

Thankful Thursday, September 2, 2010

Istijlál (Majesty), 14 Asmá’ (Names), 167 BE – Thursday, September 2, 2010 about 7:14 PM Pacific Time

Breakfast tradition
Bagels bacon scrambled eggs
Thankful Thursday joy

Someone gave us some bacon and eggs yesterday. So this morning I fixed bacon and scrambled eggs with toasted bagels. I had forgotten how much I like the taste of bacon.